Sarah's Daughter Thu Mar 25, 2010 10:02 pm
I think we've all been there at some time or another, where we have known someone, on a basic level, and as most women are prone to do, we develop an impression of her based upon an initial reaction to the way that she is dressed. Whether we admit it or not, most of us will notice another woman's particular style of dress right off the bat. We give a quick once over with our eyes at a safe distance, and subjectively we "approve" or "disapprove." I think our level of acceptance is based upon what we are raised to believe is acceptable.
Before I would ever consider bringing up the subject of another woman's style of dress, if I ever would - which I truly doubt), I would have to really analyze my true underlying motives for doing so. Also, I would determine the relevancy of this discussion, and why I consider it so imperative that this issue is brought to her attention. If she is not a close, and I mean near blood relative, sibling, or child, I don't think that it would be a worthwhile consideration. The bottom line is that each person is entitled to their own personal style of dress, whether it meets with my own personal approval or standards. Each person has their own perceptions of what is acceptable to them. Just because I personally feel that they would look much better with a different hair style, or more toned down, clothing, gives me little right to move forward with my unsolicited personal suggestions. Let's face it ladies, under these types of situations, there is no easy way to broach this subject, unless it is first suggested by the party in question -- and even then, it is a pretty murky area in which to venture. Unless this person asks for an honest assessment of how they look, or how they dress, there is no true justification for this action.
In my opinion, it is better to smile, and nod, keeping our personal opinions and thoughts of disgust closely guarded. The best rule of thumb to follow is simple, and timeless: "do unto others, as you would have them to do unto you." In this way we may avoid inflicting unnecessary pain upon others, and avoid experiencing potential conficts as a result.
Last edited by athompson62 on Thu Mar 25, 2010 10:13 pm; edited 1 time in total (Reason for editing : typos, and clarity)
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